#AskGretchen February Edition

Dear Gretchen: What are some good book options or approaches for elementary school children to discuss Black History Month? My kids are ages  5 and 7. My husband and I would like to have a larger discussion but not sure how or where to start. ---Amanda from Hoboken, NJ

Dear Amanda: One of my favorite ways to teach kids about any new idea is to take them to organized events that offer experiences. There will be many places celebrating Black History Month ranging from museums to libraries, to schools to cultural centers. Choose an outing that seems like a good fit for your kids and take them to it. The experience will spark discussion. You can also share about which African Americans have been the most influential in your life in terms that they can understand. Getting age appropriate books at the library is another good way to introduce a new concept. If you are feeling especially creative, have an African themed cuisine night and choose some new recipes for them to try. Have fun! - Gretchen

Dear Gretchen: This is my first Valentine's Day being divorced from my ex-wife. Should I recognize it with her? We are on okay terms, but I don't want to set the wrong precedent or cause confusion for our 10-year-old daughter. Do I give my daughter a gift to give her mom? --- Confused in Charlotte, NC

Dear Confused: What a compassionate question. I can really hear that you want to do this gracefully. The good and bad news is, there is no right or wrong answer. Kindness is always the way. If you are concerned that the wound is still too fresh, then pass on giving her any Valentine message from you, instead be sure that your daughter has a card or gift for her mom expressing her love to her. Holidays can be tricky. You will get the hang of what works for you and this new arrangement. - Gretchen

Dear Gretchen: My 9-year old son is a straight A student and outgoing, but isn't motivated or excited by school this semester. Do you have any recommendations how my husband and I can give him interesting academic projects, activities or apps outside school that will be fun for him after school but not exhaust him? --- Catherine from Charleston, SC

Dear Catherine: Kids are over programmed and have too many things to do and too many places to be. Let your son enjoy his time and see what he naturally gravitates too. I am not suggesting that he be allowed to watch TV or play video games for hours on end but I also don’t think that he needs to do more academics, projects, or planned activities. Kids have more homework and school responsibility than ever before and he might be burnt out. Allowing him to have free time is a true gift that you can give to him to decompress, use his imagination, and get rejuvenated.

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